💛 The year doesn’t need your urgency
A few days into the year, the gym is loud again.
Machines are taken. Mirrors are crowded. Everyone looks like they’re trying to become someone quickly.
Just a few weeks ago, that same room felt completely different. It was quiet in a way that felt honest. The people who were there weren’t trying to prove anything. They were just there, moving through their routines.
January always does this to us.
We treat transformation like something you can sign up for, then quietly cancel when it gets uncomfortable. New year, new body, new mindset, new life. All urgency. Very little listening.
Before the year started, how much time did you spend asking yourself what you actually wanted to work on?
Not what sounded like the right answer.
Not what everyone else was sharing.
But what you genuinely care about, even if no one ever noticed.
How often do we tell ourselves this year will be different without first asking what kind of pace we can live with? Or what we’ve been avoiding because it can’t be rushed?
You don’t have to fix anything here. Just notice what comes up.
If we’re going to talk about becoming, we have to talk about tempo.
Becoming isn’t something you rush through. It’s something you return to.
It doesn’t require making an announcement.
It doesn’t need urgency to prove you’re committed.
Most of the time, it asks for something quieter.
It asks you to pay attention
when your body wants to slow down
when something feels off, even if you can’t explain why
when discipline has lived outside of you for so long that you’re not sure how to offer it inward anymore
At the start of the year, I’m not interested in reinvention that ignores context. I’m interested in integration.
Who are you becoming inside the life you’re already living?
What does your body need that has nothing to do with how it looks?
What would it feel like to choose consistency without punishment?
For me, this year is starting with restraint, not ambition. Listening, not urgency. A pace I can keep even when the room empties again in February.
That’s the tempo I’m choosing.
And if you’re here reading this, maybe you’re choosing it too, even if you haven’t named it yet.
This letter isn’t here to tell you who to be. It’s here to sit with you while you decide.
Over time, we’ll talk about bodies. Strength. Food. Ritual. Home. Desire. Rest. And what it means to stay when things get quiet.
But we won’t rush you into a version of yourself you don’t recognize.
That’s what Sundays are for now.
🕯️ The Becoming Line
You don’t have to hurry to be worthy of your own life.
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If you want to respond to this, you can. Or you can just keep it with you and see what unfolds.
I’ll be here next Sunday.
Wherever you’re joining from this Sunday, welcome.
That smile below?
That’s me, waving you in and meaning it.
In this past year after bury my mother-in-love and my mother 2026 is definitely a year in the beginning of me becoming who God intended me to be that's my focus although I know I have to walk alone I know I'm not alone cuz I never been alone God always been with me 🙏🏾🖤🙌🏾🥰
I will be moving in a slow and steady pace, but intentional too this past year has been up and down. I’m sure everyone goes through that. I mainly would like to be more consistent! I thank you for this newsletter is a reminder to keep on working on yourself in the midst of anything that throws your way. 🫶🏽